Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Re: [revival-fire] An honest response to Aaron and others who want to go into exile & leave the church

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I’ve never posted here before. I am a woman minister in Western Massachusetts, planting a new—and new kind of—church.
I had to write to say you’re not alone in your feelings. Do you know the book by Dan Kimball: They Like Jesus But Not the Church?

There is a movement afoot of people who are taking back the Gospel message of Jesus from the big institutions. It’s called the Emergent Dialogue or Emergent church. If you’re not familiar, you might want to check it out. It’s very fluid, mostly young, and full of wonderful people and ideas. Check out a guy called Shane who wrote Jesus for President, or Brian McLaren (a true Christian, hated by some people, who even call him the anti-Christ because he is for social justice) author of Everything Must Change. Go to a website called Emergent Village and find a cohort of people in your area who you can talk and walk with. Go to the Emergent Conference in Philadelphia in November. Find us. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. When two or more are gathered...He is there.

Blessings on your journey,

Hunter Roberts


On 7/16/08 3:40 AM, "Daniel Black" <takeustotheriver@juno.com> wrote:

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 It has been a long time since I have posted on this forum as well, but felt like jumping in this discussion as I find myself in a similar place in my own journey in Jesus. I've gone through a recent season where I had to realize that my relationships with people were more important than a commitment to systems and institutions. I have found it freeing to serve God, my friends, and those Papa brings to my path in my journey when I no longer focus on institutional Christianity and the building up of a ministry, and simply made an adjustment to the pursuit of walking in true and Divine Love and serving my fellow man/woman  (ie whoever is in front of me). (I do have a ministry as a missionary to Asia, yet it is no longer the primary focus of my life to feed the ministry, but instead use the ministry to feed and love others). I have found myself in the middle of what both Kathy and Julia talk about. I love the church and the experience of God I find there, but at the same time, I have watched the system and institution of church consume, corrupt, and hurt many (myself included on all accounts). Two books have really helped me in my journey at this time. The first is the book, "So You Don't Want To Go To Church Anymore" by Jake Colsen and the second is "The Shack" by William Peterson. Both I highly recommend and can be picked up in most bookstores (I picked mine up at Bethel Church). In it explores the idea of genuine relationships not built around structures and institutions but around genuine love in Christ.  I think that it explores both of what Kathy and Julia are talking about. As for me, I will always love the church and the genuine corporate experience of worshipping God there. I was raised there, and the people within are family, yet I will no longer be disillusioned by and refuse to return to serving the ever-consuming system and institution that benefits no one but itself. At the same time, I refuse to allow the sting and burn of religion to keep me away from the lifesource of my family and the power of a corporate experience with God. My life within Christ has abounded all the more as I move ever more toward Him., His face is more real as He becomes the genuine focus of my journey. This is where I am finding myself in the midst of it all, pursuing love, loving God and loving others, knowing it in it's hight, it's width, and it's depth, I pray that this is where each road leads to, wether you are within the four walls or outside, that you learn how to love, for when it comes down to the end, that's what counts. Thanks for both your comments, Julia and Kathy!
Pursuing love,
Daniel Black
 
On Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:57:05 -0700 "Kathy & Lester" <porter4@frontiernet.net> writes:
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An honest response to your post:

 
 
your response left me feeling very sad and if I  didn't know better, I would feel hopeless toward the church, the bride of  Christ. I may not be as traveled or educated as you, I actually live in a  wonderful small community that you talked about. I refuse to believe all  churches and church leaders are as you say.

 
 
Although I do see some as you say, I see many who  are not. I have not gone along in Church ministry unwounded either. Iam in  leadership and a woman, I have been enncouraged and supported by many men. I  learned to be secure in who I am in Christ.. Because of that I helped to  change their thinking on the role of a woman in church and now I hear verbally  their blessings and admittance of the Lord's anointing on my life.  

 
 
A body of believers is where we mature and grow  together in our love relationships with Christ and eachother. Although this at  times has been the hardest thing ever, we(my small body of believers  ) have all hung in there. We have ventured out to larger places and we  have learned a great deal and are loved and supported by these larger  ministries. I see geniune love there, these were all outside denominational  barriers.

 
 
To paint such a gloomy and hopeless picture of  the body shows me you still have much pain inside of you. Those things need to  be healed. And to encourage someone in their hopelessness toward the  church and church leadership, is scary. We must recognize that  they(leadership) too are growing and maturing and aren't the all in all, but  moving forward line upon line and precept upon precept just as we are. We need  to know they sometimes are wounded also, and must love them through the pain  not esteeming ourselves higher than others (thinking, that they should  minister to us, not ever us ministering to them) .

 
 
We are to love eachother as Christ has loved us,  and He died for us, He died for the Bride. As long as the Bride is wounded  like this, and the pain is spreading, then she is not spottless. If we can't  love eachother how can we show others His love? They will know us by the love  that we have for eachother. Love isn't easy, love is sometimes painful. Jesus  knows the ultimate betrayal from His loved ones.

 
 
I do feel because we as  a nation move  around so much, we take the easy way out and leave. Instead of staying and  working things out, Godly confrontation. Many people aren't committed to a  Body or a community anymore. Committment, covenant--- that's were the rubber  meets the road.

 
 
I submitt this humbly. I feel you know more about  Aaron's situtation than I, I don't read all the posts and sometimes we do need  to move on but many times I think we need to stay and work things out. Again,  I know this from personal experience,, and know, all things are possible with  those who believe.

 
 
I have found all those things, love and  community and deep freindships, I am a common person I can't be that rare, can  I?


Kathy


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From:  julia  loren <mailto:juliascribes@yahoo.com>  
 
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Subject: [revival-fire] An honest  response to Aaron and others who want to go into exile & leave the  church
 

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HI Aaron, I read your last posting on Revival Fire  and your last email to me. Actually, I’ve been thinking about you a  lot. I know that your statement about “going into exile” is largely  because you feel hurt, rejected and ignored. That’s ok. I was going to  respond personally but I know that a lot of people might be in your  position so let me offer my opinion – since you asked –  publicly. I think it is great to go into “exile”  once in awhile. In the wilderness, you get a very different  perspective about what you are really wanting out of life and what you  should do about it. I think that most of us go into the church when we  are young because we find healing and support there, some excitement  in the worship and the wonder of opening up to this amazing God, Jesus  and the Holy Spirit. We give everyone all we got and pray like crazy  fools for anyone on the street because we are so in love with Jesus  and full of the Holy Spirit. Then, we discover that our spiritual  gifts start getting developed and noticed! Before long, church leaders  want to encourage our gifts in order to help serve their vision of  building their ministry. Meanwhile, you think that you are headed for  full time ministry. Reality sets in when you suddenly realize that  leaders want you to serve them; but don’t want to care for  you. It is at that point where hurt and  bitterness start to worm their way into your mind and twist your  thinking. Yeah…it sucks that you didn’t get the recognition you hoped  for. However, it is also a good thing. It just means that God is  steering you in a different direction. You may be outgrowing the group  that you’ve been a part of. Or you may have some personal healing  needs that are not going to be ministered to in that group. Your needs  are screaming to be met and there is no one there who can meet them.  There is an appalling lack of fathers and mothers in the church who  can mentor you. And you need one…and the pastor of any church cannot  (for many reasons) be “dad” for you. So my dear brother, go into “exile” –  but make it a prayerful journey. Dare to be different. Leave in peace  & don’t burn your bridges. The contacts you make in ministry  school or college or work tend to be the ones that you keep later in  life.  The people who ask  me to minister in their churches are mostly those who attended church  with me and were part of my community years ago when I was in my 20s.  It is all about building relationships and alliances and maintaining  them. As for your gifts, can they not be used  in the world – perhaps mo’bettah than in the church? I lost my  standing as a “local” and “regional” prophetic minister when I left  Seattle years ago. Those who were in  ministry at that time have also moved on. That is no longer my gig.  And it has taken me a long time to get used to the idea that the  church’s loss is the world’s gain as I use my gifts at work and when I  travel, ministering to individuals who don’t even know my name….or  care that I have one. See the problem with the church in the  US culture is that everyone  is soooo focused on building their ministry that they don’t know how  to defer to another’s gifting or work as a team – honoring one another  and supporting one another. The nature of the institution is that it  has to maintain itself by turning inward and becoming self-protective  to survive. Not many outsiders are ever allowed into ministry in any  given institution. And in this era of conference junkies and media  promo overkill; we are seeing the demise of the institutional church  and the heart cry of people to flock to the latest man of the hour /  the power hour / and a jolt of the Holy Ghost. Frankly, conferences  bring in a lot of money so pastors host the big names to keep paying  for the building. People either want no relationship so their church  is an occasional conference; or they want deeper relationships and get  frustrated with the institutional church. Which one are you? If you  crave deeper relationships, you need to start building them  somewhere. Honestly, I believe the only pure  ministers / pastors and prophets are missionaries who are deeply  mature in their love affair with God, who are laboring in obscure  fields out of sheer love for other people  - expecting nothing in return.  Everyone in America seems compromised  by making a living or a name for themselves. As for the likes of you and me; our  hearts cry out for the covering and compassion of community, for  deeper relationship, to be blessed and celebrated rather than  tolerated or ignored. So, I encourage you to find a small community  that is not part of the rock and roll river church that needs hype to  keep going. Find a group of friends. Find someone to fall in love  with. Cease striving and know that God loves you – no matter what you  do and don’t do. Charismatics and religious people tend  to forget that God created this earth for us to enjoy. I’ve traveled  all over the world with work and for fun - explored the earth from the  mountain tops of the world to the depths of the sea and I tell you,  I’d rather preach to the fishes and sing with the birds than strive  for some elusive glory in ministry. The two most important commands –  love God and your neighbor. That is all that matters… Having said that, I will be honest with  you. The church treats very few people well. Leaders do not relate  well to anyone other than other leaders. I am pretty well tolerated  among leaders because writers have a needed skill that can help them  build their ministry. Businessmen have a needed skill (or are courted  by leaders for their money) so they are pretty well tolerated – if  they support the ministry. Families are well tolerated because they  provide income to the ministry and stability of membership. Single  adults in the church are seen as society’s castaways and are treated  horribly after the age of 30. I got tired of how I was treated as a  single woman and left the church for a few years. Then God called me  back for a season –to write books. The problem with writing books is  that unless you have a speaking platform, you cannot make a living at  it. During this season I’ve thought perhaps  God was calling back into prophetic ministry since I was writing and  doing some ministry along those lines. But single women (particularly  bold, intelligent women) are threatening to men in leadership. And  after the last 4 months of seeking wisdom and advice from leaders in  various streams, I’ve discovered something – the very act of asking  questions inadvertently became a testing of my relationships and  contacts. Not one man or woman in leadership (local or international  leaders) has offered any wisdom or support to direct me into this next  season of ministry. And in fact, a few of them are really struggling  so they are not able to offer any encouragement. See, my writing gifts  helped serve them…but if I am not writing about them…they have no  desire to relate to me. I had a very gifted male friend (who  aspires to having a big name ministry) ask me how I got so many  contacts with leaders and I told him that it was simple – I have  something they want – writing skills and contacts to help boost their  image in media. I have no illusions that they give a rip about who I  am. I use my skills to build the kingdom and honor God – not to build  my own name or another’s platform. So, I have been in an intense 4 month  period of prayer, seeking wisdom from others, and trying to decide  what is most important in this next season of my life. And it is not  writing Christian books or developing a speaking platform so I can  settle into what I thought was my calling. What is most important is  finding the kind of community that will cover and bless me. I still  haven’t found that. I’ve had it at different times in my life but  people move one and communities dissolve in our mobile society.  Maintaining community is hard.   But maintaining friendships is a necessity. My closest friends  live all over the US. I so badly wish I could  have them in the same neighborhood. Building and sustaining community  is going to be the greatest challenge for your generation. So, my advice to you young man: Go into  exile – and find your life. Get a job skill and get really skilled at  it. God will call you when He needs you to help build the kingdom and  honor Him in some way – and it may be just for a short season.  Meanwhile, get some practice with a slingshot in the field and kill a  lion while you are in exile. Learn how to build tents before you start  roaming the world – you’ll need a global work skill no matter if God  calls you into full time ministry or not. Find a community that likes  you just for who you are. Fall in love and get married while you are  young. Focus on love and work – and minister outside the church. And  if you have prophetic dreams and visions of a certain theme – perhaps  that is a call into a certain line of work rather than a call to be a  prophet. Hey, if I were in my 20s again, I would  take a group of friends traveling around the world and minister to  people in youth hostels….I wouldn’t waste away in a church…I’d take it  to the streets….and explore and enjoy the world while I could…And in  fact, I did just that. Go out in joy – He is with  you! Stay in touch little brother! Julia www.julialoren.net <http://www.julialoren.net>   
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